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In an increasingly complex world, leadership is no longer just about making decisions and driving results—it’s about how those decisions are made and the internal awareness guiding them. This is the essence of conscious leadership—a style of leadership rooted in presence, self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and the ability to respond rather than react. Conscious leaders recognize that sustainable change—whether in organizations or individuals—must begin from within.
Coacharya’s recent webinar on “Conscious Leadership for Sustainable Mindset Change” brought this philosophy to life in a rich and insightful conversation. The session featured Coacharya General Manager and PCC Coach Smita R., and Archana Nilaver, Sector Lead at Google India. Together, they explored a powerful but often neglected facet of leadership: dealing with difficult emotions such as anger, fear, and frustration.
While traditional leadership development often leans heavily into positive psychology, Archana emphasized the importance of addressing what we often label as “negative” emotions. Ignoring them, she pointed out, can undermine a leader’s authenticity, presence, and long-term effectiveness. She shared how her journey with Coacharya’s coaching programs helped her tap into self-awareness, not as a soft skill, but as a core leadership capability.
To illustrate this, Archana recounted a moment when a critical project she was leading encountered an unexpected technical delay. Her instinctive reaction—frustration and anger—was intense. But instead of pushing those feelings aside, she paused to simply name them. “Just acknowledging what I was feeling, without judging it, was the first step,” she said. This process of naming and noticing, even tuning into how emotions show up physically (like a racing heart or clenched fists), was key to responding more mindfully rather than reacting impulsively.
When leaders effectively manage their own difficult emotions, the positive ripple effect throughout their team is undeniable. It’s often said that “even a whisper from a leader is like a scream” to their team, highlighting how closely teams observe and anticipate a leader’s reactions. By consciously processing and channeling their emotions, leaders can significantly alter their impact.
Leading with Emotional Awareness
One of the core themes that emerged during the conversation was the emotional inner world of leaders—and how acknowledging it can lead to deeper impact and trust. In moments of stress, it’s easy to react quickly. But what happens when leaders pause instead? When they notice the rush of anger or frustration, name it, and allow it to settle before speaking or acting?
This isn’t about suppressing emotion—it’s about creating space. Archana Nilaver shared how, in the face of a project delay, she first felt intense frustration. But rather than letting it leak into her communication with the team, she acknowledged it privately and observed how it showed up in her body. That simple act of awareness helped her respond more intentionally. When leaders do this, it not only helps them stay grounded—it shows the team what emotional regulation looks like in practice.
That said, being calm doesn’t mean being closed off. Vulnerability has its place in leadership, too. The key, as Archana described, lies in discernment. Sharing a difficult experience—like admitting you struggled with anger or fear—can be powerful if it comes with reflection. It lets your team see your humanity, without asking them to carry your emotional load. This kind of openness doesn’t make you less credible; it makes you more relatable. It reminds your team that emotions are not a weakness, but a part of the work we all do—internally and collectively.
Ultimately, the message wasn’t about managing emotion to be more efficient. It was about being more whole. When leaders process and channel their emotions thoughtfully, they make room for clarity, compassion, and deeper connection. And in doing so, they create teams that feel safer, more resilient, and more capable of meeting challenges with presence.
The Science of Emotional Contagion and the Power of the Pause
It’s fascinating to consider the profound influence a leader’s emotional state has on their team. Research suggests that there’s a striking 70% alignment between a leader’s feelings and those of their team. This isn’t magic; it’s the work of “mirror neurons,” unconsciously transmitting emotions and setting the tone for the entire group. Given this, it becomes crucial to consider: what emotional state do you want your team to be in, especially when navigating targets and goals?
This brings us to a pivotal concept in neuroscience: the “6-second pause.” Between an emotional trigger and your reaction lies a brief, yet powerful, window of approximately six seconds. In this tiny gap, you have the opportunity to consciously choose your response rather than letting an automatic reaction take over. It’s a moment to reflect, to decide what kind of emotional ripple you want to create within your team. Imagine the impact if every leader consistently leveraged this critical pause to foster a more constructive and positive emotional environment.
One of the most honest questions raised during the webinar was about the tension many leaders feel between being open and being too open. Vulnerability is often encouraged in leadership spaces—but where’s the line between being real and unintentionally placing an emotional burden on others?
When asked about this, Archana Nilaver offered a grounded and personal reflection. She shared that even with her core values—authenticity and psychological safety—she has, at times, found herself walking the tightrope between honest vulnerability and what she called “emotional dumping.” It’s not always intentional, she said. Sometimes, in the desire to be transparent, we share too much, too soon, without checking who it’s really serving.
Archana spoke about developing an internal compass to guide this balance. For her, three questions offer clarity:
- What is my intention in sharing this?
- Where are my boundaries?
- Who is this really for?
She emphasized that authentic vulnerability is constructive—it builds connection, trust, and safety. It’s about sharing mistakes and struggles in a way that helps others learn and feel seen. But when the purpose becomes self-soothing or venting, the impact can shift. It can create discomfort or even a sense of instability within the team.
Boundaries, she said, don’t mean withholding truth. They mean being thoughtful about how much to share, and when. The key is to offer insight—not overwhelm.
To bring it all together, Archana shared a powerful metaphor: she sees leadership as a container. Vulnerability, when done with care, is like opening a window in that container—offering others a glimpse into your experience. But emotional dumping? That’s like punching a hole in the container and letting everything spill out, leaving everyone inside a little more drained.
Her words served as a gentle reminder: being human as a leader isn’t about being raw all the time. It’s about being responsible with your truth, and offering it in service of connection, not catharsis.
Bridging the Gap Between Evolved Leadership and Resistant Systems
As leaders evolve, they often find themselves out of step with the cultures they operate in. This isn’t always a dramatic clash—it can feel more like a quiet tension between what you know is possible and what your environment is ready to receive. Archana Nilaver offered a powerful reflection on this. “Earlier, I used to see it as a struggle,” she said, describing the disconnect between her growth as a leader and the slower pace of systemic change around her. Over time, she’s reframed that tension—not as a battle, but as an invitation to lead differently.
One key insight she shared was how differently people experience change. For her, ambiguity and transition are energizing. She lights up at the prospect of transformation. But in the past, that enthusiasm made her overlook what others might be feeling—fear, anxiety, or uncertainty. “I was a little blind to how others experience change,” she admitted. That awareness changed the way she leads.
Instead of pushing her pace onto others, Archana now blends self-awareness with empathetic curiosity. She checks in with herself, names her own emotional responses, and then takes the time to understand where others are in the process. “It’s about naming, normalizing, and humanizing emotions,” she shared—especially in moments of upheaval. This doesn’t mean slowing everything down to a crawl. It means honoring the emotional reality of a team before moving forward.
Sometimes, this looks like creating space in team meetings for people to voice their discomfort. Other times, it’s about holding one-on-one conversations, recognizing that every person’s relationship with change is shaped by unique histories, beliefs, and values. As a “manager of managers,” Archana starts with her direct reports. Supporting them creates a ripple effect—because if anxiety goes unacknowledged at the leadership level, it will quietly cascade through the rest of the team.
Patience and perspective are critical here. Change isn’t about overnight overhauls. It’s about shifting culture in pockets, creating small, intentional experiments that can eventually scale. It’s also about finding allies—people within the system who are open to evolving and can amplify the change with you. Small wins and feedback loops make the process feel tangible, achievable, and collaborative.
Systemic change might feel ambitious, Archana concluded—but it becomes possible when we focus on realistic, human-sized steps. That’s where transformation starts: not in top-down mandates, but in conscious, connected leadership that respects the pace of the system without compromising the vision.
Lead with Purpose and Presence
In today’s intricate world, effective leadership hinges on self-awareness and intentional action, not just decision-making. This is the essence of conscious leadership: a style deeply rooted in presence, emotional intelligence, and the ability to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively. As discussed in Coacharya’s recent webinar, “Conscious Leadership for Sustainable Mindset Change,” developing this internal compass is crucial for navigating challenges and fostering trust. If you’re ready to cultivate a deeper understanding of yourself and enhance your leadership impact, explore how Coacharya’s leadership development programs can help you embrace conscious leadership and inspire lasting change.
(This blog post is based on Coacharya’s recent webinar, Conscious Leadership for Sustainable Mindset Change, and aims to provide a general overview of the key takeaways. For more in-depth information, please refer to the original webinar recording.)
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